We all have good days and we all have bad days. We all laugh and we all cry. After all, we’re all human. We also all have it within ourselves to have more good days than bad days, and to laugh more than cry. We’re all the drivers of our own happiness, as long as we choose to be.
Here are 3 simple ways to help you put yourself and your happiness first, as observed from what has worked for me and people I know.
1) Identify What Makes You Happy What makes you happy? Identify it. Is it a nice cup of coffee first thing in the morning? Write it down. Your favorite food or TV show? A hobby, your career? Write multiple things down. It’s so important to know what makes you happy as an individual, without anyone else’s influence.
2) Do More of What Makes You Happy What would you describe as the perfect day? Go do it. Have the perfect day; with yourself. Do as many things that make you a happy individual as you can. Read your favorite book or watch your favorite show. Cook your favorite meal or go to your favorite coffee shop. Get some exercise or go for a drive. If it makes you happy, just do it. Make time for these activities as often as you can. Do it for yourself, without worrying what anyone else thinks.
3) Spread Happiness Happiness is contagious. When you’re happy, it’s more likely that the people around you will be happy, too. More importantly, it’s important to remember to try and stay positive, even when the people around you are not. If you’re happy with yourself, it’s a lot harder for other people to bring you down. It’s okay to be selfish when it comes to finding your happiness, as long as you share it with others and inspire them to choose their own happiness, too. .
Start off your night right by making your bed so that once you are ready to hop in, it’s all cozy and comfy for you! I for one love getting my bed all made and all my pillows organized so that once it is finally time to jump in, I can just take a running start and jump in there. Maybe even spray some scents or light a candle to help give your room a nice aroma as you get into bed, just make sure to blow it out before you fall asleep!
Put your comfy clothes on!
Time to throw on your most comfy and cozy clothes! Whether it is a huge sweatshirt, some big comfy pants, or just a nice light t-shirt and shorts, throw those comfy clothes on! Pajama time is one of my favorite times of day because you can lose the less comfy work clothes and put on the comfiest clothes you have in your collection!
My second favorite thing to do as part of my nightly routine is to wash up! Whether I am taking a nice quick shower to clean up and cool off, or washing my face with a nice face wash it is always so refreshing! My favorite way to end the night! Get yourself all cleaned up and get ready to hop in that nicely made bed of yours!
Do some reading/Watch something
A great way to wind down at the end of a busy day is to do some light reading or to watch a nice show before heading to sleep! Activities like this are great for clearing your head and helping you calm down after maybe a busy day! I personally love to watch a nice episode of a favorite show on Netflix, or read a nice article or magazine that peaks my fancy!
Many people believe that breakfast is the most important meal of the day because it kick starts your day, and allows you to set the stage for healthy eating, and feeling well throughout. So, if that is true, who’s to say that the morning isn’t the most important time of the day for your own happiness? Starting your day off in a positive, upbeat way, both physically and mentally, must be good for your happiness through the day. It helps to set the stage of how you are going to navigate your day, deal with situations, and most importantly ensure your own wellbeing. How you start your day can drastically affect the rest of it, so why not take the first step to a better day? Not sure where to start? Don’t worry, we have you covered.
Here are 10 ways to start your day off on the right foot.
Get a good night’s sleep. This first step starts before the morning even rolls around. Getting to bed at a reasonable time will allow you to wake up feeling rested, and rejuvenated. This helps increase your energy, and mood throughout your day, thus contributing to a positive attitude, and a happy day.
Wake up earlier than usual. On days that I know will be busy, I always make up thirty minutes earlier than I usually would. This helps to allow time to wake up, and prepare for what is to come. Additionally, waking up early allows you to reduce the stress of your daily routine, allowing for more time to get things done.
Don’t immediately get out of bed. Waking up and jumping out of bed can save you a few minutes, but try this instead. When you wake up, give yourself a minute to collect yourself. Think about that awesome dream you had, and reflect upon what your day will hold. The key to this tip is to try and envision everything that you look forward to during the upcoming day. This fills your head with positive, happy thoughts, that will keep you going from morning to night.
Breakfast. Remember how I said breakfast is the most important meal of the day? Well it turns out, eating a healthy, and hearty breakfast will help you through your day. Studies show that skipping breakfast can lead to a lack of productivity, mood swings, and even hinder memory.
Let go of yesterday. While you’re getting dressed, brushing your teeth, and drinking your coffee, are you still pondering upon something bad that happened yesterday? If so, don’t. Today is a new day. Yesterday is in the past, and so are the negativities of that day. You have 24 hours to make a change in your life, don’t let yesterday’s difficulties hinder todays progress.
Find a quote. May people agree with the fact that quotes are a great way to find inspiration. If you’re lacking inspiration to get your day started, search google for some inspirational quotes. There are millions out there, and eventually, you will stumble upon one that gets you going in the right direction.
Get moving. I can personally vouch for the effectiveness of this. Before you hop in the shower, take a few minutes to exercise. Whether it’s some light stretching, a quick run, or a set of pushups, getting the blood flowing will boost your energy, and your attitude.
Listen to music. Listening to your favorite song is a great way to increase your mood in the morning. Sing it in the shower, or sing it in the car, either way works. Not sure what songs to listen to? We have you covered with 20 great songs to start your morning off right.
Take a look at yourself. Before you leave the house to start your day, take a long look at yourself in the mirror. Smile at yourself, say something positive about yourself. This will help you create a pathway to feeling good about yourself, and will help improve your mood throughout your day.
Share it with someone. Say something nice to someone. Tell your spouse how much you love them, give your kids a hug before they leave for school. No one at home? Tell someone on your walk to work to have a good day. Anyone can be a target for a compliment, or a polite greeting. The important thing about this one is you don’t just do it in the morning, you spread your positive attitude, and your happiness to everyone throughout the day.
Follow these ten simple tips during your morning routine, and you will feel happier and healthier each and every day.
Looking for more ideas? Check out some scientifically proven facts to help you have a better, happier morning.
How do you start your day? Let us know in the comments.
negative emotions instantly start to flow. Stress has had a bad reputation and it is reflected through our emotions towards the word and even on the internet! When “stress” is put through Google search the first few web pages that show are “common signs and symptoms of stress”, “The harmful effects of stress”, and “Difference between stress and depression”. So this goes to show that even the media shows stress negatively. Personally I have seen the word stress is used for many different feelings such as if one has a lot to do before a deadline they may feel overwhelmed, but instead, use the word stressed, or when a person is upset or angry they use the word stressed to describe how they may be feeling. But is “stress” really that bad?
In the TED talk hosted by Kelly McGonigal, she talks about stress and how to make stress your friend! McGingial is a health psychologist and she states that she has been teaching people that stress will make you sick from the common cold to cardiovascular disease. Over the years we have “turned stress into the enemy”. However there are studies that show if you believe stress is bad for you then it will be.
According to the Healthline editorial team, there are three types of stress…
1. Acute stress
Acute stress, also known as short-term stress is what we want to focus on because short-term stress can actually boost your immune system, make you more social, improve learning—and it may, in fact, improve memory. Acute stress is also your body’s immediate reaction to a new challenge, event, or demand, and it triggers your fight-or-flight response!
2. Episodic acute stress
Episodic acute stress is when acute stress happens frequently. People who struggle with episodic acute stress “are often short-tempered, irritable, and anxious. People who are “worry warts” or pessimistic or who tend to see the negative side of everything also tend to have episodic acute stress.”
3. Chronic Stress
Chronic stress is the most worry some of all types of stress. This form of stress is constant and doesn’t go away and stems from situations that are constant such as
unhappy marriage problems
issues/ content problems within a family
Although we may not be able to change some of these aspects, we can change our attitudes towards stress into positive ones to achieve a greater amount of happiness in our daily lives! Chronic stress can also be detrimental to your health, as it can contribute to several serious diseases or health risks, such as:
cirrhosis of the liver
Here are some tricks and tips to help you manage forms of stress!
Exercise or go for a quick walk
“me” time; take a few moments to enjoy something you love to do!
create a reward system for the workload
Catnap; napping calms the mind and body or just a short period of time
Treats and sweets; splurge a little with your favorite sweets
So please wash away your negative perspective to all types of stress and feel free to test these methods to subside your temporary stress and let’s stay positive! Also, keep in mind that stress is not always bad, it can actually be good for the human body just like positivity and happiness!
For more information on how you can benefit yourself (mind body and soul) stray away from negativity, check out my Facebook Page, Twitter and of course, more blog posts to come!
When asked this question myself I didn’t hesitate with my answer because ever since I could remember that one thing that always makes me happy is music, especially listening to my favorite band, All Time Low.
I may not know how to play an instrument or sing well at all (which doesn’t stop me from jamming out to my favorite song in the car), but it doesn’t stop me from loving music in my own way. I show my love for music and how it brings me happiness in many ways from creating specific playlists for different moods I may have, going to concerts, taking photos at concerts, etc.
Music has helped me through my most stressful and anxious moments in life by being that one thing to calm me down and bring a smile to my face. For example; when my dad was deployed for a second time I really struggled with the stress of him being overseas, but when I would listen to All Time Low’s music it really helped me calm down and make me happy!
Does music make you happy and if so why? Or do you have something else that makes you insanely happy? Share with us!
Have you ever had the feeling that you are doing everything you can think of to make your life more positive? As human beings we make life choices every day in regards to how we want to live our lives. These choices reflect in our current and future selves.There may be times you feel as if you’re in a rut and there is no way to change the way you are living. Sometimes you just take your feelings for what they are because that’s what you have been accustomed to feel. But everyday is a new day and change can start any month, any week, any day, at any time. The time that is right for you.
There are eleven habits that you can break to start “destressing” and beginning to move your life to the positive happy life you want to live!
Worrying about, everything.
Worrying takes the fun and happiness out of everything. Take a breather, expect the situations you are in. Then think to yourself what can you do to make the situation better?
There is only one person in this world that you need to please and that is yourself before anyone else! Before saying yes just to make someone else happy first think to yourself: Is this going to overwhelm me? Do I have time? Is this going to be a burden? You have to learn to say no once in awhile and take care of yourself!
Procrastination is one of the biggest burdens that you can make yourself feel. It does nothing positive for your life besides stress you out. Do not let your mind think about procrastinating. Think to yourself, No, because you know it doesn’t turn out well when you do so.
Living in the past
Nothing good comes out of living in the past. The past has happened and is now gone and there is nothing you can do to change it. If you are stuck in the past you have to deal with those problems to be able to move forward and live in the present and think about what you can do for your future!
Always looking past the present moment and anticipating the next
When you are anticipating the next moment in your live so much you are missing out on present moments in your life.
No one is better than anyone else. Simply when you judge someone else it is harming the way you think and feel. Understand that the human race is one and attempt to act unified.
Comparing your story to everyone else’s
Comparing yourself to others is something that almost everyone has done before. But, everyone is unique and has unique qualities about themselves and you have to embrace those qualities and stop thinking about the qualities you wish you may had.
We have all made a mistake in our lives at some point. Living in shame is deep and harmful. Attempt to move past the shame. Once you move past it you will be able to start beginning to focus your mind on happier times.
Disorganization and laziness
Do you think that there is not enough time in the day? Start thinking there is enough time in the day! Laziness often leads to many hours of disorganization being wasted. Being organized seems to be a hard thing for some people. But the more organized you are the more productive you will become because you won’t be wasting time trying to figure it out.
The fear of everything
Sometimes having a fears in life often hold us back from moving forward and challenging ourselves. There can be many fears someone has such as: The fear of the unknown or the fear of failing. But you never know unless you try! Put the fears aside and try something outside of your comfort zone!
The need to be busy.
Breathe! We are human, we need to sleep at some point. A habit that most have may include trying to be busy all the times. This can be for many reasons such as to lose focus of other things in life. Doing too much can increase the stress level one has. Learn to focus on the little things, take care of yourself and relax sometimes.
Always remember, happiness starts with… You! And you CAN begin to be happy today just start breaking the bad habits one habit at a time.
Have you ever had the feeling of wanting to do more in this world than just live? Had big ideas to start a charity organization or try and ‘go green’? Wanting to do whatever you can to make a difference but not knowing where to start? Of course there seems to be many excuses as to why you can’t do it- but it’s all a myth!
When you put life in perspective, you realize that all you really have is the present- and you better make it count! So how exactly do you make everyday count? Throw away all your fears and just be happy! Imagine the impact you’ll have by just spreading happiness with your friends, family, peers and even strangers on the street.
If you’re not quite sure where to start, let me help!
Be kind toward yourself.
You can’t give what you don’t have! Do whatever it is you love and just enjoy.
This could be anything from favorite snacks to hugs or even just a compliment!
Doesn’t matter who it is- always give a helping hand.
Such a small and easy thing to do, but means so much! Warning- smiles are contagious!
Giving your full attention to someone can mean so much to someone and make them so happy.
Have good thoughts.
Thoughts turn into words and actions, choose them wisely!
Speak positively about someone or something.
Always be genuine, it not only makes you feel good but adds a smile to everyone’s face! It’s so awesome spreading positive messages and encourages others to do the same.
Learn something new and teach it to others! It can be anything!